HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

A healthy relationship means that both you and your partner are:

Communicative. You talk openly about problems and listen to one another. You respect each other’s opinions.

Respectful. You value each other’s opinions, feelings, and needs, and give each other the freedom to be yourself and be loved for who you are.

Trusting. You believe what your partner has to say and don’t feel the need to “prove” each other’s trustworthiness.

Honest. You’re honest with each other but can still keep some things private.

Equal. You make decisions together and hold each other to the same standards. You and your partner have equal say with regard to major decisions within the relationship. All partners have access to the resources they need.

Setting boundaries. You enjoy spending time apart, alone, or with others. You respect each other’s need for time and space apart. You communicate with each other about what you are and aren’t comfortable with.

Practicing consent. You talk openly about sexual and reproductive choices together. All partners always willingly consent to sexual activity and can safely discuss what you are and aren’t comfortable with.

Supportive parent.  A supportive, responsible and well balanced parent gives the extra mile to make sure kids are fine in all aspects of there life. Is a great provider; cloth, food, medical attention, entertainment, education. 

A supporting parent provides all  efforts for the kids to be able to advance in all stages of life such as dressing, eating, potty training, bathing, etc.

You may be in an unhealthy relationship if your partner is:

Non-communicative. When problems arise, you fight or you don’t discuss them at all.

Disrespectful. You or your partner behave inconsiderately toward the other.

Not trusting. You or your partner refuse to believe the other or feel entitled to invade their privacy.

Dishonest. You or your partner lie, omit, or obscure facts.

Taking control. You or your partner takes steps to suggest that one’s desires and choices are more important than another’s.

Isolating. Your partner restricts your contact with other people, either in person or online.

Pressured into sexual activity. One partner uses pressure or guilt against another to coerce them into sexual acts or reproductive choices.

Ignoring boundaries. It’s assumed or implied that only one partner is responsible for making informed decisions.

Unequal economically. Finances aren’t discussed. Financial decisions are made unilaterally or it’s assumed that only one partner is in charge of finances.  

A relationship is abusive:

Your partner doesn't have to use language that's obviously derogatory for the things he say to you to be unacceptable. Calling a partner "pathetic," "stupid," yelling, manipulating things to make you feel guilty, telling you to "fuck off" or using abusive, unacceptable verbiage like  "Fucking" constitutes verbal abuse, too. Abusers often name-call and swear at their partners as part of the "explosion" phase in the cycle of abuse; after the outburst, they may try to win you over again with exaggerated gestures, gentleness and pleas for your forgiveness.  

Communicates harmfully. Your partner communicates or in a way that is hurtful, threatening, insulting, demeaning, using .

Mistreats the other. Your partner doesn’t respect your thoughts, feelings, decisions, opinions, or physical safety.

Makes untrue accusations. Your partner accuses you of cheating or breaking the boundaries of your relationship. Your partner may escalate by creating situations where you need to “prove” your trustworthiness, like handing over your social media passwords.

Controls the other.  There’s no equality in your relationship. One partner makes decisions without the other’s input, or makes all of the decisions in certain parts of the relationship, like finances.

Isolates the other. Your partner controls where you travel, who you talk to, or how you spend your time. This often includes physical or emotional isolation from your family and friends.

Forces sexual activity or controls reproductive choices. Your partner forces or pressures you to engage in sexual activity you don’t want to. Your partner controls your reproductive choices by sabotaging birth control, or by pressuring you to have or not have children.

Controls finances. Your partner controls the money and access to resources, including preventing you from earning an income or accessing their own income. Having an open, respectful dialogue about finances is not an option.

Manipulates children. Your partner uses your children to gain power and control over you, including telling lies or baseless criticisms about you.

A non-supporting parent is not willing  to provide any effort for the kids to be able to advance in all stages of life such as dressing, eating, potty training, bathing, etc.